Rabu, 30 Januari 2008

Your Inner CEO: Unleash The Executive Within

It was really a pleasant surprise when I received an email from Allan Cox himself. He had stumbled upon Enhance Life, and the email contained several compliments about the blog. Coming from a best-selling author, it really meant a lot to me. I was on a natural high that day! (I still haven’t deleted that email. Every time I need a boost of motivation, I read it.)

That was not all. He asked for my address so that he could send a copy of his eighth book, Your Inner CEO: Unleash the Executive Within.

Here was this great, accomplished author and he wanted to send "little me" his latest book. I couldn’t believe what I was reading! It was indeed very generous of him and I am truly grateful for the book.

Allan Cox never asked for a review. However, I wanted to do something in return. I know this is not much, but here is my honest review of the book.

"CEO, um.. I have a long way to go" were my initial thoughts based on the title. All that changed when I read the first sentence of the introduction.
Every time you start a new job, you go back to square one.

Don’t I know that too well!Having switched to a new job a few months ago I could relate well to what he was talking about.

Browsing Through - Your Inner CEO: Unleash the Executive Within.


Chapter 1 Goals sets a foundation by urging you to recognize lost dreams and desires. In doing so he asks you to look deeper into our style-of-life.

Chapter 2 Changes prepare you to connect goals to those beliefs and desires. You are asked to traverse the boundary that separates the fear and self-doubt from courage and conviction.

Chapter 3 Facades looks into the importance of continually excavating your organization’s style-of-life. It also focuses on how to discover the overlap between your organization’s ideal and real personalities. Towards the end it talks of the importance of mastering the art of meditation.

Chapter 4 Boundaries reminds you that you are always moving away, toward or against someone or something, and that knowledge has great significance for you and your world. It advises you to distinguish between the apparent and the real purpose of a boundary, thereby giving you the means to define accurately any situation you face.

Chapter 5 Boards helps you gain awareness of the new board accountability that has emerged. You’ll learn how to prepare, plan and execute good board meetings.
It also highlights that you will accomplish more with less control, by relinquishing illusion of control.

Chapter 6 Visions talks of two vision faces. First, vision hear-and-now, and second vision there and then. You’ll learn that who you are as a company now, is the single best indicator of who you are going to be.

Chapter 7 Futures stresses that small decisions confirm an agenda for better or for worse. It helps to articulate your company’s style-of-life, vision, and mission in a fresh compelling way.

Chapter 8 Models suggests that you are like all other people, like some other people, and like no other person. It gives a guide to write your centering statements. That you never reach the wall; the journey never ends.

Chapter 9 Mentors states that good mentoring induces autonomy in others and that mentors can come from any background. It emphasizes that mentoring relies on full frontal contact networking, and positive grounded leadership.

My favorite excerpt
Boundaries...define every situation, even though you often have to peer behind the facade to get to it...If you can't identify the purpose behind whatever situation you're examining, you'll never know its true nature, and...it will continue to baffle you...the purpose of even a simple, everyday object may lie far beneath your initial understanding of it. Take a humble meeting room chair, for example. You know its purpose: to provide you with a seat at the conference. But that's only its apparent purpose. Look more closely at it...That chair wasn't built for you, it was built for hotel management that needs to stack hundreds of chairs in a compact space. It's lightweight, sturdy and stackable; it can be transported easily, stored with others in a closet, and it can work as well in a dining room as in a conference room. That's reality.

Overall
Allan Cox, doesn’t allow you to just read a chapter and forget about it. At the end of each chapter you will find an "Inner CEO Punch List". This list helps you look deeper and apply what you read to your life and/or your company.
In its entity, I believe this book is a cornucopia of research-proven tips, techniques, and resources to help you maximize your potential for success. It will change your life in ways that will make you a better leader.

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Minggu, 27 Januari 2008

If You Want To Be Understood.......

On my way from work last Friday, the radio played the song I will always love you by Whitney Houston (This is not a post about love, keep reading!). I have heard this song several times before. In fact, this was played at a wedding I recently attended. Come to think of it, for many wedding occasions this song is an obvious choice. I was confused….

Bittersweet memories
that is all I'm taking with me.
So, goodbye. Please, don't cry.
We both know I'm not what you, you need.

And I will always love you.
I will always love you.


If one examines the lyrics, the chorus is all lovy, dovy. However, I wouldn’t consider other parts of the song, appropriate for a wedding. I sure won’t be playing this song at my wedding!

This song is several years old. Yet, in 2008, I finally figured out what the song is really about. How many years did it really take?

Why am I bringing up this song and its lyrics? Well, I believe that song lyrics,(like many things!) we don’t listen to, well enough. To the people around us, to the people that are important to us. I wonder, how much do I listen to what people are saying? How many times have people tried to tell me things and I haven’t listened? Oh, I thought I heard, just like I thought I heard the words to I will always love you. But I wasn’t grasping the entire meaning.

Listening is so basic that we take it for granted. Unfortunately, most of us think of ourselves as better listeners than we really are. So from this experience, I resolved to do my best to not just to hear the words people are saying, but grasp the meaning; grasp the totality. Easier said than done though!

So, are you a good listener?
Do you make regular eye contact with the speaker?
Do you ask questions for clarification?
Do you show concern by acknowledging feelings?
Do you restate or paraphrase some of the speaker’s words to show that you understand?
Do you seek first to understand, then to be understood?
Are you poised and emotionally controlled?
Do you react non-verbally, with a smile, a nod, a frown, or a touch (if appropriate)?
Do you pay close attention and do not let your mind wander?
Do you act responsibly on what you hear?
Do you stick to the subject?



Nothing hurts more than the sense that people close to us, aren’t really listening, to what we have to say. We never outgrow the need to communicate what it feels like to live in our separate, private worlds of experience. I suppose, being listened to, spells the difference between feeling accepted and feeling isolated.
The bitter truth is we can hear something without choosing to listen.





Roadblocks To Listening


## Preoccupation
It’s the weekend. The sun is beaming, there’s a slight breeze, and as you sip frozen lattes with your husband, talking about your latest accomplishment at work, you are startled; you see your husband’s eyes have suddenly popped out of his head! Of course, you can’t help but turn around to see what’s caught his attention. It’s a perfectly coiffed, shiny French manicured, expensively dressed women teetering by!

When your child returns from school, she is eager to tell about her day. You just got back from a hectic day at office. Before you know it, your daughter starts talking. Yet, all you can think of is how you are going to finish the “homework” you brought from office, before tomorrow morning!

Do I need to present any more examples? I think you get my point. I am sure we are all guilty in more ways than one. The thing is, we don’t intend the hurt the other person, the reaction just happens!

## What am I going to say next?
Before the start of my official lecture schedule in the first semester, the university organized an “Orientation day”. It was held with the intent of introducing the lecturers, as well as, the students to get to know each other. After the initial talk by the dean (to my utter horror!), he asked each of us to stand and say a few words about ourselves. While each person stood up and recited a few things, all I could think was "Oh no, it's going to be my turn to talk soon, and I won't know what to say (I was really shy way back then!)" that I didn’t hear what the other person was saying.

Did you every get caught up in thinking about your next point, that you weren’t listening to the other person?

Lesson Learned: Don't think about what you are going to say next, because while you are thinking, you're not listening!

## "seek first to understand, then to be understood..." ~Stephen Covey
Most of the time, we think that we are hearing what the other person is saying. But most of the time we just hear the things we want to hear. And we take that to be the entire meaning. You heard what you wanted to hear, instead of the message spoken.

Sometimes people are so concerned about making their point and getting what they want, they forget about listing to the other person’s side. Even if you disagree, and want to make a point, you’ll do well to first understand their point of view, then make yours known.

To listen skillfully is difficult. To listen impeccably, with fixed, full attention is a discipline much like mediation! It requires practice, rigor, and resolve. Make a conscience effort to the practice of listening; starting now!

If you want to be understood…. Listen.
"Real communication occurs when we listen with understanding. It means to see the expressed idea and attitude from the other person’s point of view, to sense how it feels to be him, to achieve his frame of reference in regard to the thing he is talking about." ~Carl Rogers

Is listening something you need to give attention to, in your life? Does listening come naturally to you? Do you have any experiences to share? Please leave your comments.

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Kamis, 24 Januari 2008

Why You Shouldn't Confess First!

~ Adapted from Jokes.net

Three Psychiatrists decided that it wasn't fair that other people always brought them problems, while psychiatrists had no one to go to.

"We are all professional, so why don't we take this opportunity to tell each other our problems right now?" said the first psychiatrist. "For example, I am a compulsive shopper and deep in debt, so I always over bill my patients."

The second psychiatrist said, "I have terrible drug problem and regularly pressure my patients into buying illegal drugs for me."

The third psychiatrist said, "I know its wrong, but I just can’t keep a secret."

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Rabu, 23 Januari 2008

Wordless Wednesday:Cost Of Living!

Wordless Wednesday cost of living

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Kamis, 17 Januari 2008

Free Personal Development ebooks Download

I downloaded the following ebooks for free from Self Growth Free Giveaway. Thought of sharing the link with you.

* How to Get the Truth Out of Anyone
* Discover EFT, with the ULTIMATE Manual
* Get ANYBODY to Like You in 30 Seconds!
* Holistic Healing Secrets
* Advanced Memory Course
* The Ultimate Self-Esteem Workbook
* 177 Ways to Burn Those Calories!
* 404 Self-Improvement Tips
* Introduction to Hypnosis

Hope these are useful and you benefit from them.

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Selasa, 15 Januari 2008

Common Sense; Where Is It When You Need It The Most?

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Common Sense
Common Sense is one of those much-used words that is hard to define. The dictionary calls it good sense in every affairs; practical intelligence. Once again the key word is good. We are evidently supposed to just know what makes good common sense. Of course some of it is learned, but really the idea suggests that we may have a built in sense of right and wrong.

Much has been written on the idea that we have a conscience or an intuition about good and bad, and I tend to agree.

For example if someone decided to steal something from you or kill you, without asking your permission, is it safe to say that you instinctively feel these things are wrong? Common sense tells you killing and stealing are not good. I wish all questions of right and wrong were that easy! Nevertheless, the key to it is, if you aren’t absolutely certain, keep searching for the answer. Your intuitions may work in subtle ways, making you sense that something just doesn’t seem right.

Common sense is instinct. Enough of it is genius.
George Bernard Shaw


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Senin, 14 Januari 2008

The Person I Long To Be

By Victoria A. Mogyorosi

The day light breaks again
Another day has begun.

But still no sleep has come.
My body is weary

My mind overworked.
I lie awake thinking

But what I am unsure.
I need to break free from the cycle I endure.

Everyday is the same and the nights are undistinguished.
I feel as though I am being pushed along with the tide

Unable to break free from the everyday flow.
This is not me I need to change, before time takes over

And I am unable to change.
I need to be freed from the grasp of ordinary

And become that person I have always longed for.
Express myself in every way, and conquer the dreams as I lie awake.

Then I may fall asleep and put my mind to rest.
Make changes in my life and help those in need.

I would like to touch everyone's life in a positive way
And leave my mark on society before I fade away.

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Kamis, 10 Januari 2008

Better Caring Helps You Take Care

Among the many difficult decisions in life, there is one decision that practically everyone has to deal with…

How do you take care of your loved ones in there old age or in time of critical ill health?

The situation becomes harder and more complicated as sometimes you need to take care of them without loosing your life or your job. I really commend the people who sacrifice their time and energy to care of their loved ones themselves.

There are others, who feel they are incapable of taking care of your loved ones by themselves and look for nursing homes.This post is for them.

A few factors you would consider are
• Care Facilities
• Location
• State Law
• Full time or part time care
• Environment
• Medical staff

Bettercaring is a dedicated service formulated with the above in mind. You can arrange the right kind of care, read daily care news and views, and even receive tips from care experts. From searching for the right type of care to finding the funds to pay for it, you will find it worth your while.

Senin, 07 Januari 2008

The Balance Sheet Of Life!

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Reference: Hatnamag, July-September 2007 issue.

Our Birth is our Opening Balance!
Our Death is our Closing Balance!
Our Prejudice Views are our Liabilities
Our Creative Ideas are our Assets
Heart is or Current Asset
Soul is our Fixed Asset
Brain is our Fixed Deposit
Thinking is our Current Account
Achievements are our Capital
Character & Morals, our Stock-in-Trade
Friends are our General Reserves
Values & Behavior are our Goodwill
Patience is our Interest Earned
Love is our Dividend
Children are our Bonus Issues
Education is Brands/Patents
Knowledge is our Investment
Experience is our Premium Account
The Aim is to Tally the Balance Sheet accurately
The Goal is to get the Best Presented Accounts Award!

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Kamis, 03 Januari 2008

7 Things To Be Cautious Of In Year 2008 And Beyond

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Cautious Year 2008
This post is my view of what we need to watch out this coming year. What's your view?

#1. Guard your time like a hawk
I once read somewhere that its all about "stuff" and "time". We need to identify how “stuff” robs us of space time and energy. Ultimately get rid of the things we don't really need and get at the absolute essentials.

Before you know it we might be wishing 2008 goodbye. I have stopped counting how many people told me, “My, I can’t believe another year has gone by so soon.”.
So, make more time for the important stuff otherwise you will regret later.

#2. Don’t loose your identity
More and more people these days, wants to adapt the lifestyle of someone else. They try to change or imitate someone else and along the way, loose their uniqueness.
They generally are not happy with themselves and constantly say,
If I had more money
If I had a nice face
If I had ..

#3. Don’t be a victim of "technoism"
In this day and age you find gadgets with various bells and whistles. You may not even know how to use some of these! Sometimes, you spend a generous amount only to feel stressed and frustrated.

Yes, we need the television, cell phone, internet etc. Its up to you to draw the boundaries.

#4. Preserve your hearing
This is somewhat related to the above (and a one that is very relevant for me!). I am an avid fan of music and audio books. As a result, I use my headphones about 15 hours a day.

#5. Lighten up!
None of us are in control as much as we like to think we are. Don't take yourself too seriously.

#6. Food Zone
While fast food is easy and tasty, it doesn’t do us any good in the long run. Try as much as possible to have a well-balanced and nutritious meal. Plan your meals before you write out your shopping list. You'll know what is needed and time will be saved.

#7. Terrorism
You hear about shootings, suicides bombs and wonder, "what has become of this world!". Sadly though, there is nothing much you and I can do to prevent this!

Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

~ Frank Outlaw


Are there other things to be cautions of in your list? let me know.
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Selasa, 01 Januari 2008

Happy New Year 2008

Happy New year 2008
Another fresh new year is here . . .
Another year to live!
To banish worry, doubt, and fear,
To love and laugh and give!

This bright new year is given me
To live each day with zest . . .
To daily grow and try to be
My highest and my best!

I have the opportunity
Once more to right some wrongs,
To pray for peace, to plant a tree,
And sing more joyful songs!

~ William Arthur Ward
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