Human Weakness: Maret 2010

Senin, 22 Maret 2010

5 Ways To Emerge Stronger When Your Best Is Not Good Enough

I have a friend who is a really good dancer. She recently participated in a dance sport championship and despite her training and preparation, she ended up fourth. When I talked to her after words, I could sense the disappointment when she told me, “My best wasn’t good enough”.....

In my experience, it's usually something of a personal nature that carries over into every aspect of our lives. Sometimes, no matter what we do, it's just feels not good enough.

“I'm trying my best at work and I still feel like a failure all the time.......”

“I study so hard but my grades are still low”

“I’m doing my best to make this relationship work, but it’s not going anywhere”

[your story here!]

Surely, you’ve had moments where you felt your best was not good enough? You felt helpless and couldn’t really figure out what to do next?

Well, here are some steps you can take when you find yourself such a situation. This is a list of options to consider; to help you decide what your next step will be.

1. Don’t quit

This may seem obvious but when you feel defeated, this is the first thing that comes to mind. You start questioning your abilities and wonder whether you are on the right track etc.
If you feel you have potential to improve, you need to keep working toward that objective.

2. Recite affirmations about your worth and capabilities.

When you get that feeling of “not being good enough”, you start being your worse critic. The mind becomes a battlefield of negative thoughts.
Remind yourself, “I know I can do it”. If not, your inner critic will say, “Who are you kidding, you have never done this before. What makes you think you’re going to do it now?”
Read more on how to Give Yourself An Attitude Tune-Up

3. Evaluate what you need to learn and improve

Leaving pity talk aside, what really is the reason that you feel you are not good enough. What are the things you need to learn, practice and put into action?
Is there a way to measure progress? Revisit your goals and ambitions; you need to develop a personal plan for continuous improvement.

4. Raise your standards

Whatever you have in life, you have got everything you deserve because the actions you have taken to date, have produced it. These are the standards that you have to set for yourself; until now, and until you do something different you will not get a different result. Only when you raise that standard yourself can you expect to raise your expectations.

5.Use motivational quotes to keep you going

I like to keep track of quotes that really speak to me and give me a different perspective.
I’ve written about it before. Check these out.. (in case you’ve missed these previous posts)

Have you ever been struck with the feeling that you best wasn’t good enough? Howe did you recover? What did you do? Leave a comment and let me know.

Educators - Youth for Human Rights International

Educators

	Lesson Plan Convention on the Rights of the Child FAQs

“Youth who do not know their rights are vulnerable. Youth must know their human rights and know too that they have responsibilities according to Article 29 of the United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Responsibilities are key in learning human rights.”
— Mary Shuttleworth (EdD)
An intergovernmental conference on human rights education held by the Organization for Security and Cooperation in Europe in Vienna in March 2004 recommended that schools undertake education in human rights and children's rights¹. "Human rights education should be included in all school curricula starting from the earliest years of education. It should be mandatory particularly for secondary school education," the conference urged.
The conference also recommended that "In human-rights education, particularly in promoting tolerance and countering discrimination, non-traditional methods such as dance and music should also be employed."
YHRI has developed a lesson plan that educators can use in teaching human rights to young people.

See also:
Music Video for Human Rights

¹ Supplementary Human Dimension Meeting, "Human Rights Education and Training". Final Report, Vienna, 25-26 March 2004 (ODIHR.GAL/33/04. 4 May 2004.)

Art Contest - Youth for Human Rights International

Inspiring Youth Action

Art illustration contest for children

"I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it."
— Francois Marie Voltaire

What do HUMAN RIGHTS mean to you?

• In support of the United Nations Decade for Human Rights Education
• Art illustrating a point chosen from the Universal Declaration on Human Rights
• Youth 8 – 18 years old may enter.
• Illustration may be no more than 8” X 11”.
• Entries must be received via mail or e-mail by December 1.
• Successful applicants will be notified by December 10th.

Coordinated by:
Youth for Human Rights International
Patronage: Irving Sarnoff Founder, Friends of the United Nations
"In support of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights distribution project."

Senin, 01 Maret 2010

When The Right Decision Turns Out To Be Wrong

I recently bought a new sofa and I had put off buying throw pillows until I enough coins in my saving jar! I was happy (and proud!) that after a few months of saving I could finally afford the throw pillows. So yesterday I went to the store and was looking over the various pillows. My sofa's fabric is a sage paisley pattern with brown and burgundy accents. After much deliberation (and annoyance to the sales lady!) I decided to go with plush brown pillows.

After returning home I soon realized that the brown didn't coordinate nicely with the couch. I had to make another trip to the store, pleaded with my most charming smile and managed to exchange the brown with some burgundy pillows. Yap that looked quite lovely with the sofa!
This is an example of a decision that was easily reversed.

We often have to make decisions upon something in life. Those things could be important matters or trivial ones and sadly life doesn't always seem to allow a retreat option in decision making.

I may not be the best person to offer anyone sage advice regarding decision making. But I do think it is an issue that each of us are faced with on a daily basis throughout our lifetimes and thus worth discussion. I often tell people that caution is my middle name since I can sit on making a decision for a very long time before acting upon it.

We often make the decision thinking it’s the “right”/best/ suitable decision. Sometimes, it is. Other times, it turns out the be the wrong one. Yes, the right decision, turned out to be wrong.

What was the last decision that you made that turned out to be wrong? Looking back at it now, why did the decision turn out to be wrong?
1. Did you rush into the decision?
2. Did you let emotions sway the decision?
3. Didn’t you consider all possibilities?
4. Did you have sufficient information to make the decision?
5. Did other people influence the decision?
6. Did you take the “comfortable” decision because you were afraid of other options?

There ain't no answer. There ain't going to be any answer. There never
has been an answer. That's the answer. ~Gertrude Stein

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